Marriage and Money – Giving Your Partner A Choice

by The Happy Rock on April 13, 2009

The Rockette and I were traveling to our in-law’s house and we were having an informal marriage budget meeting.  It was the perfect time to bring up a few new areas that we could grow our giving.    I failed. I failed at including my wife in a way that gave her any input.   I failed, because I assumed I had the right answers all worked out.  I failed, because I acted as if I just needed her approval on my right answer.  I failed because I didn’t value her input or perspective.  I failed at a chance to draw us […]

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This is the 3rd chapter is a series of posts showing how the little things can add up. Here is part one & part two. You might have missed it, but I dropped some subtle hints in my recent snowblower post that I can from time to time, be a pretty big baby. Well one night after a frigid shoveling adventure, my wife took pity on me (FINALLY!). I told her that I’d like nothing more than to have that night’s hot chocolate to be accompanied with some nachos.  But you need chips for nachos and we had none.  Luckily […]

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Our Rules For Buying A House

by The Happy Rock on November 6, 2008

The Rock Garden has been planning a move back to Pennsylvania for a long time now and the wheels are finally in motion.  The logistics of trying to sell our house, buy a new house, and deal with changing both our jobs is a bit scary at times, but it is something we both want(especially me). We have been talking about this move for years, so we have laid out some common sense principles that will help keep us on track when the house buying frenzy begins to cloud our thinking.  It is easy to get caught up in the […]

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Marriage and Money – The Budget Meeting

by The Happy Rock on September 6, 2007

What often happens in marriages with combined finances is that one person will assume control the finances. They pay the bills, watch the accounts, and retain all of the money know how. In our family that is me. Being the analytical numbers guy, I willingly take on that task. On of the pitfalls of combing finances is that one person often ends up with all the power. Power doesn’t have to just mean setting rules, but it can also mean bearing the financial stress and controlling information. The other spouse often becomes oblivious to the actual amounts and inner workings […]

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Sorry to disappoint, but this isn’t your ‘how to save money on your photographer type post, or ‘how to cut wedding costs’. Just as understanding what our cars say about us can save us a bunch of money on car purchases, remembering this key tip can shave thousands off your wedding bill The commitment of two adults choosing to share their lives together forever, is the BIG DEAL The trend seems to be for weddings to become more and more lavish, even to the point couples are willing to take on $10,000+ in debt to live up to some external […]

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What should our personal finance system “buy” us?

by The Happy Rock on May 25, 2007

Before I post on how we are going to change our current system, I wanted to discuss what I am looking for in a good finance system. Note, I am using personal finance system to mean the accounts and tools that your money flow through from paycheck through payment and/or savings. As always, the purpose of analyzing this and the overall theme of The Happy Rock is to continually simplify our lives in order to create more freedom for the goals and people we truly value in life. Here are five areas that should be analyzed when creating, tweaking, or […]

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