2008 Gratitude Post – Thank You For A Good Year

Posted by The Happy Rock on January 1, 2009

As 2008 was ushered I wanted to take a few moments to look back and remember another good year.

The Happy Pebble Jr. joined The Rock Garden in January
Stayed Debt Free and saved substantial money towards a 20% down payment on a bigger house
MBA from Drexel University Completed
Renovated and placed our condo on the market
Continued at a stable good paying job
Increased side income from blogging and other online ventures
The Happy Rock readership has tripled in 2008
Blog traffic is up 400% to about 400 hits a day

Pretty good year! It is amazing what actually trying to think and be positive does to your perspective. In my year end reflection I was a bit disheartened and down beat about 2008, but when I started to focus on the positive it is amazing how much better the past looks and in turn how much brighter the future looks.

Thanks to all my readers for a help contribute to a great year!

» Filed Under About Me(Goals), Chasing Dreams

Friends Matter : Social Networks Shape Our Perception

Posted by The Happy Rock on June 18, 2007

This post will be part of a larger series called Friends Matter, which will discuss some of the ways that our social networks can support or hamper our personal journeys.

“She has been starting to run with a bad crowd.” At some point we have all heard a parent respond to a question about their teenager’s objectionable behavior with this common phrase. The underlying principle is that ‘who we associate with can play a big role in our choices and actions’. Ironically, we don’t see parents responding with “He has fallen in with a good crowd” when someone complements their son’s good grades, but we will leave that for another day. Parents believe rightly that a child’s friends have a huge impact on their choices, although somewhere along the line we tend to think we matured into free thinking adults. The truth is we need to be aware of the influence that can come our social networks.

Picture a single guy, Jim, who has friends that go into debt for very nice items, such as sports cars, plasma TVs, and golf memberships. Normal to Jim is a world in which people should have these items. Jim’s opinion of what is ‘normal’ is very much influenced by the people around him on a daily basis, and to a lesser extent by the people and images that bombard his life from outside his normal routine. How hard do you think it will be for Jim to get to a place were he desires to be debt free? He is stuck needing items that he can not afford to fit in with his peers, or he must break ‘tradition’ and risk not fitting in. How hard would it be if he started to date a woman who didn’t own a credit card and only bought things that she could afford? Much easier. The take away is that the values of the people that surround us inevitably bleed into our own philosophies.

I read a comment on the topic of getting rid of TV from the household that echoed this principle very well. Just one Christmas after removing the TV from the house, the parents were amazed at how content their children were with the meager gifts they could afford. The parents had removed part of their children’s social network that provided them with a significant amount of input. The images on TV had bred a discontent for the lifestyle that the parents could provide. TV wasn’t encouraging the children down a path that meshed with the parent’s vision, so it was cut off.

A good place to start can be to ask ourselves these two questions: What are the players in our social network saying to us? Does it align with my vision for the future?

Here is a quick application from my life. Part of my dreams includes working from home and starting my own business, yet all of the people around me are in 9-5 jobs. Although I enjoy my circle of friends, I would be ‘abnormal’ with regards to my career vision. This says to me that I should augment my network with some entrepreneurs and other people who have transitioned to earning a living from home.

» Filed Under About Me(Goals), Friends, Materialism, Psychology of Debt